Hi there, remember me? The lover of a good list? Remember how we talked about lists being good for the soul? That’s right, just like chocolate and champagne. Well, scrambling through my journals today I came across this delightful list circa 2012 (one of many written just for the sake of a good list) and wanted to share some of its nourishment with you.
1. Have really great sex. What an awesome ambition! There’s nothing shallow or selfish about that, at all. In fact, since great sex involves another human being receiving as much pleasure as I am, it’s actually an act of kindness… right… More importantly, why settle for anything less? Sex is about connecting completely with another human being, it’s not just sweaty skin sliding over awkward positions – well not all of the time anyway. So make sure it’s worth it. For both of you. Every. Single. Time.
2. Dance like nobody is watching. Which is really just me admitting a. I love to dance but b. I usually look like an octopus on crack. Nonetheless, this item had a tick beside it, which pleased me to no end.
3. Run an entire marathon. Retrospectively I’m still wondering why? I guess because when I run I have time to think about kindness and my place in the world. But since I have already ticked the box on this, perhaps I now need to change this to: work out how to be kinder without the need to run 42kms.
4. Commit to taking photos that matter. Yes! Please, everyone, add this to your list. Gone are the days when we took photos with care, knowing that we had limited film. And gone are the brilliant days of dropping off and then picking up our film months after taking that first shot and having forgotten what the subject matter was. What would happen if you took every photo like it was the end of the roll? A single shot, taken with care, with consideration and with heart? Which sounds a lot like a metaphor for how we should live this life.
5. Thicken my skin against the slings and arrows. Which is pretty much telling myself to suck it up. Always sound advice.
6. Embrace my gifts. Like the gift of the gab… yep, I’m giving that an enormous hug right now!
7. Be grateful. Yes, even when you are tired, run down and feeling a little sensitive. In fact, that’s perhaps the best time to focus on gratitude.
8. Be courageous. Sometimes, for me, courage is just saying ‘no’. Sometimes it’s about following my passion. And sometimes it’s bigger than me – it’s about challenging the bully, the sexist, the racist, the status quo. It’s not easy to be the person who speaks out, who says what they truly believe, particularly when the whole world is trying to shout you down. If you lead with love as your intent though, I believe it gets a whole lot easier.
9. Smile more. I’ve never really liked my smile – all teeth and gums, with a scrunched up, button nose. But since I’ve never seen a smile on anyone else that I didn’t like, maybe I just need to get over myself. At the end of the day, a smile is only a smidge about me and mostly about the effect it has on others. Every smile is a multiplier.
10. Sing from my soul. I love singing, but like some many other things in life I judge myself against other people’s opinions. But when I don’t sing, I feel… less. Solution: To heck with what others think of my voice – sing, sing, sing. Loud, in the car, in the shower, in the kitchen, on my walk, when I’m running, in the forest, at the club, with my girlfriends… just sing.
11. Love without fear or need. Enough said.
12. Do that which brings joy. Which, when written down, seems so bloody obvious.
13. Be more patient. Not surprisingly there was no tick beside this item. I guess I have to accept that this is a life goal… Just when I think I have achieved a day (yes, just a day would be nice) of calm, I find myself hissing at someone or something. And frankly, that can’t be good for them or for me.
14. Seek balance. Which sometimes means that after I have finished hissing at that someone or something I need to think about one thing I am grateful for and acknowledge it deeply. It also means that if I eat all my greens I can have that extra glass of champagne (although that sounds a lot like Cake Talk).
15. And last, but not least – Expect Brilliance.
Do you keep journals? Do they contain lists? If so, what’s at the top?